I understand completely see my father left us out of the quickness of the night without question of cause or of why he wanted to severe his ties with us.  I did not know my father but when i was 21 that was 17 years without him he decided to appear out of some foggy scene that he himself apparently has no recolection.  He to this day which has been 6 years later i did have some connection in the begining when he did his famous appearing act but then realized why my curiousity was going to kill me.  As they say i found he didn't care about his only daughter after lies upon lies and all the time and energy i put into saving him in a sense.  I got nothing but a selfish depressed conceided father.  I was hurt.  When i finally had enough i basically stop with all conversations back and forth and began healing after the pain once again.  But lately he decided to write my husband a letter and talk to him like he was his own blood.  Inserting in the letter my half sister which to me seems to be his closness rather than i am.  Though my sister really dislikes him.  He pursues her like she is.  In some sick fashion i imagine.  So in my head i am writing a letter to him in all the things i should say.  I know what i should and shouldn't say but that tie we once shared for a bleak moment will never be.  I feel for all those who lost there fathers in lies and the own form of self distruction.  It does pain me so that others have to go through what i felt when he left.  For all those woman who feel the pain and scarcity of their invisible dads.  I feel for you in all most of sympathy and heart.  God bless everyone and hope too you all can fix that whole as well as i have.  Thank you.